Main Entry: 1di·vorce
Pronunciation: d&-'vOrs, -'vors also dI-
Etymology: Middle English divorse, from Middle French, from Latin divortium,
from divertere, divortere to divert, to leave one's husband
1 : the action or an instance of legally dissolving a marriage
2 : SEPARATION, SEVERANCE
Main Entry: sep·a·ra·tion
1 : the act or process of separating : the
state of being separated
2 a : a point, line, or means of division b : an
intervening space : GAP
3 a : cessation of cohabitation between a married couple by
mutual agreement or judicial decree b : termination of a
contractual relationship (as military service)
Did you hear that Brad Pitt
divorced Jennifer Anniston? How about Lisa Presley divorcing Michael Jackson?
What still no big deal? Then why on earth did everyone here get their panties
so twisted last Sunday when Roger and Warren called an end to their
I see it as because it hit
so close to home. Did you feel
betrayed because you thought you had lost your home away from home? Was it
because you thought one of your friends did the unthinkable to another one of
your friends? Were you like me and blame the person taking the football without
even to stop and think they had a valid reason? I admit it; I’m guilty as
charged to all of the above.
We all know how ugly a
divorce can be. The first thing you
do is to choose sides. Do I choose
my Dad because he has all the money? Do I choose Mom because she lets me do
what ever I want to do? I think many of us were quick to do this, mostly siding
because it was Roger that left.
A few of us got down right
down nasty before Roger’s reasons were known to us.
Things were said like and I quote Kyle Philips “Nice
F****** hostile take over that Roger implemented, huh.”
Bruce Wallace never short on words had plenty to say “Roger won't agree
with what I am going to say to you, but I sure don't give a
s*** what he thinks. What has
happened here is, Roger wants to start his own site,
all by himself. That is fine, but
what isn't fine is, he stuck Warren
in the back with a knife.”
Even Mike Murphy
a guy that hasn’t played since I can’t remember had this to say “The only thing
that surprises me about what just happened is that it didn't happen a lot
sooner. One of the main reasons I
did not play here is I doubted it was going to last very long. I have the greatest respect for Warren and so did not post a lot of things I
otherwise would have, and didn't want to take away from the fun anyone was
having playing here.
Not so long ago, I thought Roger was a Lawyer.
I was mistaken, he is not, but is the next closest thing it appears....”
Boy oh boy were the natives restless.
UNTIL, Roger presented his case. (Only
after Denny begged and pleaded with him to do so) Roger was hesitant to do so
because he didn’t want to hurt Warren’s
feelings anymore then he already did by leaving.
But to please us, the members, he relented and did so.
I for one am glad he did. I read his
reasons with an open mind and could very easily see why he had to go out on his
own. I hate to see an end come to
Golfconn, but in no way, shape, or form, can I blame Roger for making his
decision. I am sure if I were in his
shoes I would have had to do the same thing.
By the looks of the posting on the web board and the links playing going on now
I really think many others here feel the same way.
I quote Dan
DeShaney “After reading Rogers Mission novel, I
understand why he did what he did.”
Even GrandpaBruce has
softened up a little bit on his stance……..bahahahahahaha!!!!! “I
too, still have to reflect on it more, before I make a final decision on my
membership in this community”
And even Mike
Murphy… ok he hasn’t been heard from since so my bad.
I guess there
still is one selfish thing I / WE can blame Roger for and that is that he should
have had better timing and made some kind of statement to the members before
leaving. Did he have to? Probably
not, but I think if he did we all wouldn’t have been two steps from jumping off
a cliff and in such a need of an enormous group hug.
But then again if you remember the Golfconn site went down because of renewal
problems. Some think Roger took
advantage of this, I think Roger did it at this time so that the members could
keep playing instead of waiting on Golfconn to come back up. Once everything was set on his site, why go back?
I admit this is all speculation on my part and not Rogers words so he indeed could/should share
in the blame on all of the confusion that has panicked the members.
[Rogg note: Hindsight is golden. Here we are, 10 days later. Suppose the TGC site was still down now? The best word I had from Warren late April 9 as to when the TGC server would be back online was "I dont know."]
The bottom line
is breakups do occur everyday for one thing or another. Deal with it the best you can and move on.
So where do we
go from here? The way I see it, if you want to continue to play Links with your
buddies you play here at the Golf Cabal that now has a secure launcher to where
the scores you see are the scores that are played, 1 time per round!
We are all
adults, we don’t have to act like little children choosing sides and saying
things like your momma wears army boots or your daddy is from Broke Back
Let’s get a
fresh start here at The Golf Cabal and enjoy each others company, golfing, and
About that group
hug, I think Warren
should be included!!! Warren
has been a part of this group since dirt was dust.
He gave us a home to play at when we needed and shouldn’t be kicked to the curb. I’m sure Warren’s
feelings are hurt and probably feeling pretty low right about now. Could all of you perhaps send him an email or a
post inviting him to our group hug and let him know that we still want to play
Links along side of him? Warren,
you worked hard at your site for us for a long time.
It is now your turn to relax and enjoy the fruits of your labor by just playing
golf with your friends.
[Rogg note: This Monday morning, April 17, I emailed Warren and told him he had been given a lifetime membership to GolfCabal, in honor of his single-handed role in saving Golfcom by having the foresight and doing the planning and advance work necessary to provide a site when Golfcom suddenly vanished. He is understandably hurt over what has transpired, but he is always welcome here. You know, I hate Bill Gates but I use his Windows. There is more at play here than the monkey who cranks the organ (me)...there is a community of long standing. If if would make anyone feel less disloyal to Warren to participate here, they could include in their web board signature the words "I hate Roger!", and I would honor their feelings by not responding to their messages. "A city may be moved, but not a well."]